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Do you ever work with women who are in their sixties, have had successful careers, have left their last career, and are ready to go onto another but don't know where to start? I feel like I'm just starting college and there are too many choices, too many options, what to major in, help!
Dear Reader,
Let’s start by taking a deep breath! Really, before you read on, take a deep breath… Bring oxygen into your lungs, knowing it will create more oxygen for your brain, lowering stress and improving your thinking and decision making skills. Taking deep and calming breaths is also an important step to stop yourself from drowning. Just relax for a few minutes and float along with me as we look into possibilities.
It sounds like you have created a new beginning in your life! Wonderful! It also sounds like you are extremely capable of success, resulting in endless choices for a new career. Fantastic! It’s easy to get caught up in feelings of fear and overwhelm when going through major life changes. You know everything that is possible and you want to make the right decisions. Before you start drowning in options and the unknown, remember this very important point: You have already proven that you are a good swimmer!
Your situation is one of the most common reasons why people choose to see a life coach. It’s easy to see why. These transitions are what I call RBDs (really big decisions) and there is no simple way to dive in and find a perfect answer. However, when faced with a RBD, I find what you are looking for is not the right answer, but finding the right questions. The right questions will to have you swimming straight to your favorite shore. Let me give you an example. The questions below are typical of what you might ask yourself:
Question #1: Where (or how) do I get started?
Answer: Help! There are too many answers that might work for this question! (Overwhelm is activated.)
Question #2: What were three things I dreamed I would love to do while I was still working in my last career?
Answer: Okay, this I can answer! I thought about working with animals, being outdoors more often, and dreamed about becoming an Olympic swimmer.
Now we have created the beginning of calm thought and inspired thinking. You also have the number of answers down to only 3 manageable ideas. Each answer is one that can be looked at and inquired about. Pay close attention to and allow your wildest dreams! They may be wild, but they also may have some (or all) of the pieces or keys to your new career. For example, when we inquire into a dream about becoming an Olympic swimmer, you may find that you would love working with your community pool, organizing a fun women’s swim league at your new office, or become an entrepreneur and create traveling tours around the world for people who love to swim! So much is possible when we don’t underestimate our inspired thoughts!
Keep swimming in questions over the next month. Each question will connect you to what you love, ideas you have dreamed about in the past and inspirations that are still sitting quietly in the corner of your heart. Other questions might be: What are three reasons you wanted a new career? What was missing in your last career? What is one thing you would love to have as a legacy for your life? Or one of my favorites, what would you love to do right now?
It’s important to remember, you will need clarity to answer your questions. If you are not exercising, sleeping or eating well, it is a lot harder to be truly inspired and move forward. I also encourage all of my clients to have one spirit-centering activity. This might be meditation, walking, breathing exercises, yoga, dance, creating artwork, or any other outlet that soothes your soul. When your spirit is clear, you can hear the inner guidance inside of you that is trying to be heard. Do you know what yours is saying?
When swimming your way to a second career, remember you can float with your inner guidance, tread water with the right questions, get support while increasing speed by hiring a coach, and most important know that you can easily keep your head above water - you already know how to swim!
Smiles and Success!
Rain
Copyright 2008 by Rain Fordyce