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Dear Rain,
For one of the first times in my life, I know what I want, but I find myself
afraid to ask for it. You see, I want to really get started in Internet
Marketing but I would like a partner to do this with. I look at all these
successful companies and they often have business partners that can support
each other to balance their strengths and weaknesses and realize I could have
it. But I don't know who to ask or how to get started. I always feel like I'm
too young, not professional enough, not established yet, and all sorts of
negative thoughts. Help!
Dear Reader,
You have found what you really want to do! Congratulations on your first success! That is a huge step on your new exciting career path.
You have a few different questions in what you wrote. How
do I ask for what I want? Who do I ask to be a partner with me? How do I get
started? How do I gain confidence to do
what I want to do? How can I be
successful even when I am having negative thoughts?
Whenever we are moving forward, blazing our own trails, we find there are stumbling rocks and roots along the way. Don't let the stumble, make you turn around! It is so exciting when you first find your trail header! Let’s see if we can keep you walking confidently on the authentic journey you crave.
How do I ask for what
you want?
Asking for what you want is a big part of living authentically. You can’t just know what you want, you have to learn to ask for it. Thoughts of not deserving and being presumptuous often come up when you need to ask others to help you. The truth is, there is no way to ask others for what you want and always hear a yes from them. You may actually hear them say that dreaded word….No! Is this what you are afraid of? One thing I have learned in my life of sales was not to try to get people to say yes. This is much too stressful. What you want to do, is to try and find those people who will say no. This may sound insane, but you will actually begin to hear no, and feel relieved!
Set yourself up with a goal of collecting 5 no’s today. Once you reach that 5th no, you will feel so glad to be done, you might even thank them! The more no’s you collect, you will soon realize that no’s can’t hurt you, unless you allow them to.
Who do I ask to be a
partner with me?
This is an interesting challenge. Friends may seem like the first choice, but this can be the best way to lose a good friend. Ask yourself what do you want in a partner? What are you trying to balance out from your strengths and weaknesses? Create a list of exactly what you must have to create the partnership of your dreams. Once you have this list, look for a new friend, acquaintance or a friend-of-a-friend that might fit the bill. Just in case you never want to talk to them again, it won’t leave a big scar.
How do I get started?
Many people say the first thing you need to do to get started is to write out a business plan. Although this is not bad advice, it is not necessarily the most inspired advice. Since I tend to tell all my clients to do what they love, that is what I am going to tell you. What is it about Internet Marketing that you love? What excites you and fascinates you? Study and explore that first, then when the opportunity arises or a inspired idea comes up, take that first step. Don’t worry about facts and figures right away, it is so much more important to get your fire burning hot. Once you are in the middle of hot fiery coals, you will find a way to get a business plan written and the details will come. On the other hand, if writing business plans is what you love, by all means, do that first!
How do I gain
confidence to do what I want to do?
For instant confidence, many people decide to get help! This one is one of the main reasons people hire life coaches! It never hurts to have a personal cheerleader along the way! Gaining confidence can be easy or difficult, depending on the depth of your negative core-beliefs. One way to gain confidence is to just keep walking down your path. Don’t try to bypass steps along the way. Take each step, one at a time. Know that the longer you walk, the more experience you gain, the more rocks you jump over, and naturally the confidence grows.
How can I be
successful even when I am having negative thoughts?
Put plainly, you can’t.
The reason is, success is in the mind of the beholder. I know people who make six figures who don’t
feel successful and those who are making zero dollars who do. If you are feeling negative, no matter what you
create, you won’t feel successful. You
need to start your feelings of success now!
And like I said in the beginning: You have found what you really want to
do! Congratulations on your first success! That is a huge step on your new exciting
career path.
smiles and inspiration!
Rain
Copyright 2008 by Rain Fordyce
Inspirational Coaching with Rain