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Dear Rain,
I know I have some hang-ups. It's a part of being human and I believe I am more empowered seeing them for what they are. Is it better to accept yourself as "humanly flawed" and move on or apply energy to unraveling your knots? I go back and forth. Sometimes I am highly motivated to work on myself. Other times I simply want it to be ok to be me, flaws and all!
Dear Reader,
Wow, this is a
great question that had my mind reeling with my own thoughts and beliefs.
I believe we are
spiritual beings having a human experience.
And as you said, part of being human is having flaws. Hmmmm… “flaws” seems to be a loaded
word.
When I looked up
“flaw” in Dictionary.com,
I saw the loaded definition:
a feature that mars the perfection of
something.
What would that
feature be in your eyes? As humans my
assumption is, in fact, that we are perfect.
Perfectly human. Flaws do not
seem to fit into the definition of human.
May I suggest a more positive thought as “accepting oneself as humanly
human.” I just like the ring to that…
What is coming up for me when I think of your question is:
When you decide to “unravel your knots,”
what brings you to want to expend the energy to do that?
I think when you
answer my question, you will find out the answer to your question.
Most of the time,
we do decide to be okay with who we are. We continue our life as it is. A life constantly analyzed would be extremely
draining. So, we live day to day with
our unknowns, our misunderstandings and our unenlightened behaviors, (dealing
with the word unenlightened is a whole other Ask Rain!) Something happens that brings us to the
attention of one issue, (for example: we take what other people say personally.)
Why did it come
to your attention? Did someone say
something to you? Did it cause you
suffering? For some reason, this
suffering has gotten your attention as something you don’t want to deal with
anymore. So you may begin a course in
self-care, coaching, counseling, and/ or self-analysis. Once you have pinpointed the part of you that
you wish to update, you make that your challenge. Once you feel you have done what you can, you
can go back to living life as it is, while being okay with who you are.
I believe it is better to continue to live and learn while accepting yourself as
perfectly humanly human…
smiles and inspiration!
Rain
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