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Dear Rain,
What do you
do when you are trying with all your might to attract financial wealth and
prosperity to your family but your spouse may be unconsciously continuing to
attract lack? Now, please don’t
misunderstand, I am not trying to put all of the blame on my husband, I accept
my fair share of the negative energy around this problem.
I've tried introducing him to the law of attraction, but it just isn’t his
thing. He's from the old school of "you must work hard to get ahead and be
thankful for the little you get." So is it possible that he is hurting my
progress?
Dear Reader,
This is an interesting question, thank you for bringing it to my thoughts and attention. I think it is wonderful that you are using the law of attraction to raise your vibration and create abundance for your life. I also understand your husband’s point of view of working at something to create a tangible path to money and energy.
One thought that came up for me was this. Your first sentence you state, “trying with all your might to attract….” My understanding of the law of attraction is based in these 3 steps:
1. Ask
2. Believe
3. Receive
If you are using these three steps, where are you “trying with all your might?” The step that I see you might possibly feel like you are “trying,” is step 2. Believe. This is the part where raise your vibration to meet the Universe’s answer. Seeing it… as it already exists. Does “Believing” feel like work to you? Your words suggest that you and your husband have a similar belief… just pointing in different directions.
Using words like “trying” and “might” will lower energy vibrations when using step 2. It can negate what you are actually hoping to achieve. You might want to rephrase your statement to something more in the realm of:
“I am on a path to create abundance in my life.”
Now about your husband’s beliefs, first ask yourself, is what you wrote really what he believes? As I stated before, it makes sense to work hard for many people on this planet. The reason is they see tangible results from working hard. For example: I work 40 hours per week, I get a paycheck. I work overtime, I get a promotion.
Have him read these two statements below and ask him which one is closer to his honest belief.
Is it:
“You must work hard to get ahead and be thankful for the little you get."
or is it:
“I enjoy working for what I want and being grateful for everything I have.”
If he believes the first statement, I would tell him. The only problem with working hard to get what you want, is you will have created a life where you are doing a lot of hard work. Keeping a positive thought about this common belief, by turning it into the second statement, will allow you to keep your choice to be joyful about your work and can change the amount you mentally suffer in your life. That is something definitely worth practicing!
So now that we have cleared up our words and created clarity with the two thoughts, I can answer your question. Is your husband lowering your chances of creating abundance with his beliefs? Let’s look at your two positive thoughts together:
“I am on a path to create abundance in my life.”
“I enjoy working for what I want and being grateful for everything I have.”
Wow, by just shifting your words towards positive energy, it seems there is no problem!
You both seem to have a beautiful strength that could create great abundance in your life!
I went to Dictonary.com and
found this definition of marriage:
blending or matching of different elements
or components
Here is what I found with the verb marry:
combine, connect, or join so as to make more
efficient, attractive, or profitable
I am excited to think of marrying the two ideas you have into positive results. Just like the two of you married each other, marrying your ideas is just as powerful. There is no need to convince him that the law of attraction works. Doing so will only create stress and a lower vibration in your home. Why not celebrate your different strengths to co-create something new? With your high energy thinking and his positive love of work, you are sure to be successful in creating the abundance you are looking for!
Take these three easy steps:
1. Ask: Have a dreamstorming (like brainstorming) date with your husband and ask each other what you would LOVE to have in your life. Have fun and listen to each other. What are you co-creating?
2. Believe: Just allow him to believe in what he believes and allow yourself to believe in your own journey. Allowing will create a strong belief in your marriage.
3. Receive: Open your hearts to each other and you will open your heart to the Universe. Allow yourself to enjoy your precious moments together and watch as you receive the incredible abundance as it begins to show itself to you!
smiles and inspiration!
Rain
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